Uravu-Pirivu

A magnetic relationship

It was baffling to me as well when I heard these two words resound in my head, waking me up and keeping me awake from a meager night’s sleep. It is baffling because, although I speak fluent Tamil, it is not the language I think or write in.

Uravu: Relationship. Pirivu: Separation.

These are not words I would normally use in daily vocabulary and yet here they were, thrown up poetically by my subconscious on a night that followed a day that I can only describe as a ‘Dark night of the soul’. If you know what this means, or have experienced it, I hope you are shining now on the other side. If you do not, I will leave well alone be😊

In this blog, I try to fathom what these twin words have come to tell me.

I have just spent an extended period of time with my siblings after a few years. We came together for the common love of our mother after a period of physical and emotional separation. Uravu Pirivu.

I have spent a large part of the last two months integrating with my own reality, building a relationship with my subjective reality so to speak. I realize this had to be done since there was an inherent separation where there should be none. Uravu Pirivu.

I have made choices to embrace situations and people, choices that perhaps were separated from common sense, but driven by the twin feelings of Love and Oneness that pervade all things and all beings. Uravu Pirivu.

It occurs to me that there cannot be Relationship without Separation. That they may be two sides of a coin. The earth’s poles are separated by the whole world, and they hold together the whole world precisely because of their magnetism. Also they cannot exist without the other. Uravu Pirivu.

A bird’s wings need to separate from each other in order to take flight as one being. Animal limbs need to swing away from each other in order for movement as one being. Petals of a bud need to separate in order to bloom into beauty.

Perhaps this is what all beings are meant to do. Perhaps this is our purpose. To come apart so we can come together.